Connection Vs Rejection

After my own breakdown and breakthrough, I kept thinking about this and exploring where exactly the disconnection came from. Looking back, I see now that it was largely in fear of being rejected and how it relates to so many aspects of life. 

 

Nobody likes feeling rejected. Consequently, at times we become desperate to find a connection to fit in or please in any way that we can. The desperate search for this connection can take us away from ourselves and can create patterns that aren’t healthy, becoming never-ending if we allow it. 

Worn clothes you felt uncomfortable in. Pretended to know something to go along with conversation. Said you’ve watched a movie or read a book that you haven’t. Not spoken your true beliefs in front of others for fear of not fitting in. Not ordered a meal you’ve really wanted. There are endless examples of this if we explore. 

 

Why do we do this? Doing, saying, wearing things we don’t align with. Feeling like we just want to fit in. Desperate to find a connection with something or someone so that we blend into space just to feel some sense of being. Scared to face rejection from the conversation or the crowd. Scared to be you. It’s no wonder we start to slip away from ourselves ever so slightly until one day you feel lost from who you once were. 

Using Mindfulness & Meditation I now have a deeper understanding of how we unravel whatever we need to feel connected. Contact me if you want to strengthen this too.